A central theme is nonviolent parenting and the impact of mental health on behaviour. Although Gaga initially believed in gentle parenting, she openly admits that she struggled: “I lost the plot and I’ve been violent to my kids… it became more and more.” She explains how moments of anger seemed effective in the short term, saying, “You have the impression that it’s working, but in the long term, I don’t think it’s the best for these children.” This realisation led her to seek help and reflect deeply on her actions.

The conversation highlights how untreated stress and burnout can manifest as harmful behaviour. Gaga describes reaching a breaking point: “I was actually afraid of killing one of them… I put my hand on my daughter’s throat and I thought, now I really need to do something.” From there, lifestyle changes such as improving nutrition and reducing kava consumption played a role in her healing. She emphasises that “what you put in your body actually influences your mind… everything is connected.”

Both speakers reflect on broader societal attitudes toward violence. While there is strong advocacy against violence toward women, disciplining children through physical punishment remains widely accepted. Gaga challenges this, stating, “If you want your kid to be respectful, you have to respect your kids.” The discussion underscores how normalised behaviours can blur lines, with Yasmine noting how easily people justify harm: “It’s OK because there’s a reason… but once that line is crossed, you might not control how far you push it.”

Another key topic is the idea that children’s behaviour is often misunderstood. Gaga encourages a shift in perspective: “They are looking for connection, not attention.” She explains that punishing children for “bad” behaviour can reinforce negative cycles rather than resolve them.

The conversation also explores cultural tensions in Vanuatu, particularly around gender roles and tradition. Reflecting on a public debate about appropriate attire in sacred spaces, Gaga questions inconsistencies between custom and modern interpretations, while acknowledging her position as an outsider. She notes, “We should all be able to have different opinions and still have a discussion.” At the same time, she observes ongoing inequality, saying, “Women are still not as respected as they should be… it’s a patriarchal society.”

Education is another area where Gaga challenges convention through her experience with unschooling. Unlike traditional schooling, unschooling removes structured curricula and instead follows the child’s natural curiosity. She explains, “If they want to read, they will read… you have to trust your children.” While not presented as a universal solution, it raises questions about flexibility in education, especially in contexts affected by limited resources or disruptions.

Finally, the discussion touches on modern challenges, particularly the impact of smartphones and internet access. Gaga raises concern about children’s exposure to harmful content, including violence and pornography. She emphasises the importance of open conversations with children, acknowledging that complete protection is unrealistic.

Overall, the episode highlights that personal growth, parenting, and social change are deeply interconnected. Rather than promoting rigid solutions, the discussion encourages reflection, openness, and small, intentional changes—both within families and across society.

The full episode of the RTP is available on the Vanuatu Daily Post website.

PUBLISHED IN THE VANUATU DAILY POST ON SATURDAY 28 MARCH 2026.