Freda Willie, Disability Inclusive Disaster Risk Reduction Officer for the Vanuatu Disability Promotion and Advocacy Association (VDPA), said women and girls living with partners at home are often more prone to verbal and physical violence during decision-making processes.

“As an advocate for women and girls with disabilities in Vanuatu, I have observed that those in relationships are more likely to experience domestic abuse from their partners over simple disagreements about family matters or personal issues at home,” she said.

Mrs. Willie further emphasised that women and girls with disabilities face the greatest challenges when they lack a voice at home to express their opinions on any matter.

“We live in a male-dominated society where women must submit to men, especially their partners at home. When you have a disability, it worsens when people look down on you and consider you as vulnerable,” she said.

“In some cases, many narcissistic men are more likely to overpower their partners at home, making it harder for women with disabilities to feel included in decision-making processes.”

Willie added that in public areas, there are instances of women or teens aged 15 to 17 who lack the freedom to go outside and explore. Their disabilities pose challenges, and they are often verbally abused by disrespectful men on the streets.

“This makes it harder for women and girls to enjoy the outside world and exercise their rights,” she said.

“Even in the aftermath of disasters, unemployed people with disabilities face a higher risk of being affected since they become more vulnerable and dependent on their caretakers, partners, or families.

“Their families or caretakers may neglect them as they have other responsibilities aside from constantly caring for them.”

Willie shared her own experience of living with and tolerating an abusive partner.

“It was the small discussions at home that led to violent outbursts. Whenever I disagreed with his decisions, he would become triggered, hitting me, dragging me across the floor, and stepping on me,” she shared.

“He would discriminate against me, saying that because I am always in a wheelchair, my opinions shouldn’t matter.”

Mrs. Willie highlighted that the best solutions involve seeking professional help and counselling from the Vanuatu Women’s Centre, the Police Family Protection Unit, VSPD, and VDPA in both Vila and Santo.

“Our two disability organisations—Vanuatu Society for People with Disabilities (VSPD) and VDPA—are here to provide support to women and girls with disabilities,” she said.

“Talk to a family member, a friend, or a community leader (such as a pastor or chief) to accompany you or assist you in obtaining the help you deserve.

“At VDPA, we offer comfort and services to people by facilitating consultations between the victim and the abuser or with family members, so they can learn how to treat their daughter, sister, wife, or friend with a disability as a normal person, not defined by their disability.”

SOURCE: VANUATU DAILY POST